kublai khan and marco polo Getting Dressed For A First Date
So, the cute guy in your apartment building that you have had a crush on for FOREVER has finally asked you out. The first thing you do is squeal and dance a jig (only in your mind of course) in excitement. Then, halfway through your first kiss daydream you realize, you don’t have anything to wear! You start to panic, you haven’t washed clothes in 2 weeks and you probably need to buy a pair of Spanx to smush down the fat from your last bad breakup. Darn that emotional overeating and that last slice of chocolate cake you still plan to eat. Don’t stress. We have all been there and I am here to help. These are my do’s and don’ts on what to wear on a first date.
First of all, DO find out where you are going. There is nothing worse than being over or under dressed. Fashion should always meet function. If you are going to a nice restaurant, I suggest a nicely tailored dress, paired with average height heels, and a simple cardigan. This look is sexy but still sweet. It will give a nice preview of your figure without distracting him from getting to know you; and let’s face it, if you walk in looking like sex, getting to know you will be the last thing on his mind. For dinner and a movie, I suggest a nice pair of jeans, and a lacy camisole layered with a cardigan. Ballet flats complete the look, which is simple, yet charming. This outfit is also great for a walk in the park or a coffee date.
Second, DONT go over the top. I know for some of you that is difficult. As an over the top person; I get it. But being over the top on a first date is really only distracting. On a first date you want a person to get to know you, and that is difficult if all he can think about is your breasts hanging out of your top and your spray tan that reminds him of Snookie from the Jersey Shore. Less is more in this case, so tone down the extensions, and the bright colors. You will thank me later ;
Third, DO be confident. I know, I know, that is terribly clich, but clichs are clichs for a reason; they are true! It doesn’t matter if you are wearing millions of dollars’ worth of diamonds. If you don’t feel good about yourself in it, don’t wear it. There is nothing more unattractive than the tug and pull. You know, that “oh so subtle move” where you tug the bottom of your dress down and pull the top of your dress up when he looks away. I’m going to let you in on a secret. it is not subtle at all. I’ve done it. Trust me; there is not enough stretching in the world to make that kind of outfit comfortable. Wear what makes you smile and feel good about you.
Last, DONT pile on the makeup. As much as I love makeup, nothing will turn a man off faster than a face full of crap. So while that smoky eye and blood red lip looks fierce on the cover of Vogue, this is not the time to try it out. For a first date, you want to look as natural as possible. So cover up the blemishes, but leave the rest of your face clean. The same rule applies to hair, on the off chance that he decides to touch it, it is probably best that his hand doesn’t come out covered in the shine serum you piled on at the last second. Men never notice things like shiny hair anyway. Leave it be.
Aha! Now you remember, you did just buy that cute little cardigan the other day that will be perfect on your coffee date. No need to be nervous. He has been staring at you for months. It is obvious he likes you, so perk up! You are fabulous! Finding an outfit for your first date wasn’t so bad. You had it in you all along.